The reason why people get addicted to having friends with benefits is that they can have regular sex with someone you have been familiar with and trust without making things complicated by developing a committed date relationship in the end. How do we have a successful adult dating relationship.
When you in a relationship of friends with benefits, there are no feeling strings between you and them, which means you can enter and leave this relationship as you wish. You and your friends can do what you whatever you want without worrying that you have developed a deep feeling between you, you’re still single and you can live your single life. You also don’t have to worry about your insecurity when comes to dating, such as cheating, arguments or betraying. You can also still being friends with them like you always like without afraid your friendship being damaged which your trust comes from, because friends with benefits allows you still being friends with them even such relationship don’t work.Still, friends with benefits can bring much unnecessary dramas. Such relationship sometimes can become a real mess in the end, especially if you’re making this relationship private. Being private means your other friends don’t know such thing, so you are always sneaking around. Making it secrete often being many misunderstanding between you and them, or between you and your other friends.
How to have successful friends with benefits? Setting your bottom line is very important. Make things clear to your friends that what is your intention from this friends-with-benefits relationship, and what you can’t accept in this relationship. You can set a standard for how both of you treat this relationship, rather than expecting they do it while leaving it unspoken. For example, you want to make your relationship out of the spotlight and make public on social media, while your friends may want to make your relationship in the dark. You can always avoid such dispute by setting your boundaries to make sure both of you are on the same page.
Like all kinds of relationship, being friends with benefits has its cons and pros. You can leave this relationship at any time and don’t need to put much efforts like you treat a serious relationship. But friends with benefits is not a lifetime thing, when is the time we should stop such relationship? of course, most of time, it’s up to you, when you don’t want to continue such relationship, you can end it, or when you want to start a serious relationship with others. But sometimes other situation happens, once your intention and feelings start to change, being friends with benefits only make things become more complicated, for example one of you develop feeling toward another in the end. Which won’t always lead to a perfect ending like some TV drama show, the most likely scenario is that one of you is not responding to your love, and your friendship is broken, eventually causing harm to both parties.